06 Feb The Easiest Step to Parenting More Intentionally
How Family Values Have Helped Me as a Mom
Two years ago, Ben and I drafted our Mandrell Family Values. Just so you know: God has hardwired me with a love for planning and details so this kind of big picture/philosophical discussion felt a bit overwhelming at first. As we began to write down our unique vision for our family, it felt more and more empowering. In the end, we framed the document, added a family picture, and hung it in our kitchen as a constant reminder of who we want to be.
Here are two questions people have asked, as Ben and I have shared about this:
How did you narrow down your family values?
Ben and I tried to be fair to one another, writing with equal representation. He would not have picked “Cleanliness & Order” and I would not have picked “Lifelong Learning” (sounds nerdy). As we listed our personal values, we created a master list and circled the ones that seemed most important. We ended up with nine.
What makes family values more than words on a wall?
The values posted on the wall have helped me in home training as I often call attention to them when our kiddos misbehave. For example, one of our values is “Uniqueness.” We discuss this value when one child surpasses others in a sport or musical instrument. We should not be threatened by the gifts of others, because God has given each of us special talents. Another value is “Healthy Confrontation.” When we wound each other at home, we don’t sweep bitterness under the rug. We humbly air our feelings and seek to grow through conflict.
Drafting Family Values has been an incredible tool for our family. If you have interest in this process, I’d love to share what we’ve learned along the way! Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.Click here to download a PDF of the Mandrell Family Values